Happy August everyone! Not going to lie, I kind of cringed typing the work August. Is it just me or did the summer FLY by? Why does it always do that to us? Not okay! I am sure a lot of my readers right now are getting ready to head off to college for the first time. I am so insanely envious that y’all get to the start the best chapter of your life. I hope everyone is enjoying these blog series and thank you for all the kind words from last weeks episode!
Today I am going to write about how to make friends in college. Instead of just telling how to do that, I’m going to share with you my experience in that department in hopes that it help. I’m going to say this right now because it is 100% true but your college friends are going to be your friends for a lifetime. You will have an incredible bond with all of them because we went through everything together. Everything includes daily challenges, heartbreaks, bad grades, not receiving job offers, etc but the best thing about those friends is that they are there for the positive aspects of college too. You will laugh with them more than you cry and when you look back at college, your friends are the ones that made the memories.
You have to understand that everyone who is going to college is in the same exact boat. Everyone is new and everyone wants to make friends. It is a lot easier to make friends in college than you think. So be sure to put on your happy face and have an open mind to meeting many people. I have always been someone who prefers to have 100 good friends than 2 best friends. Sure I have a handful of extremely close girlfriends but it is so important to be friends with everyone.
The easiest way for me to make friends was definitely through my freshman dorm. You will be surprised by all the incredible people you will meet just footsteps away. You will also have a dorm parent who is responsible for hosting different events to bring your dorm together. There are typically dorm parents on every floor or every other floor in the building (depending on your school). These dorm parents are typically junior or seniors and they are more of a loving friend than a strict parent. They are there to obviously enforce the rules but they serve almost as an older sibling who is there to give you guidance or just lend a hand when times get tough. My dorm parent did an incredible job bringing my floor together and we all became like sisters. Like I mentioned in my previous posts, keep your bedroom room door open. I met SO many people that way by simply just saying hi to people as they walked past the hall. The simple hi soon became conversation and very quickly lead to friendships.
This is really self explanatory but it is so important to make at least one friend in every single one of your classes (especially your major). You want to have this classroom friend because not only can this lead to a friendship outside the classroom but if you are sick one day it is great to ask them how class went / if you can borrow their notes. It is also a way to have a study buddy or a person to read over your essay before handing it in. These friends are SO important and some of my closest friends now were friends in the classroom. It always makes it easier to go to class when you know a familiar face!
Getting involved outside the classroom is another great way to make friends. You will come into the situation where you ask maybe 5 of your friends to go to a clubs meeting and for some reason those 5 friends can’t go or just don’t want to go. That will happen and don’t let that stop you from going. I’ve done many things on my own in college and I encourage you all to do the same. College is all about learning more about yourself and growing as a person. You will be pleasantly surprised by the number of people who go to club events alone too and it is a perfect way to meet someone. I fortunately made a lot of friends volunteering or just attending club meetings. When you make friends in these types of settings it always becomes more enjoyable.
Please feel free to leave any comments below! If you are in college, I would love to hear how you made friends as well!